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  1. I may have commented on this past way back when. It seems familiar. But I’m going to do it again anyway.

    I am not good at making friends. In fact, my “best friend” at the moment is someone I met online several years ago who eventually happened to move to the same town I ended up in. I have at one point had lots of friends, but most of them were military (my husband’s co-workers & their spouses) so now we are spread out. The only place I’ve really been able to make friends is one from an old job and a few from church. I think it’s much harder as an adult.

    • I think you did comment on this post as well, though you commented on the 2013 repost of it, not the original from way back in 2011 (unless you did, but I have no way of knowing that for sure, as that blog is long deleted).

      I’m really good at making friends online for whatever reason. It’s the struggle of making friends in person that baffles me. I can get along with people well in person, however I rarely hang out with anyone other than my fiancee and her family.

        • Fine by me. I used to blame not fitting in with people, but now that I don’t live near my family in rural, ultraconservative Ohio, I don’t feel that way quite as much as I used to. So…boo/woo introversion!

  2. Is your fiancée good at making friends? My husband is, and I milk that shit for all it’s worth. Because yeah unless I was in school or at a cool job I’ve always been awful at making friends too. And flirting/getting dates, for that matter. I’ve resorted to the Internet for both on more than one occasion.

    Now I feel like I have a healthy balance, to where my internet friends are not desperation friends but real friends, and I also have in-person friends.

    • She’s better at it than I am, but we’re both socially awkward in different situations. Online dating was the only way I dated for about 3-4 years. It lead to a couple of the more entertaining experiences of my life, as well as quite a few bad ones. I may have to write a post about that in the near future (perhaps right before I repost my dating tips and tricks post?).

  3. It’s at times like this where having a community [be it a church, music group, etc] helps. While the relationship formed within a much smaller setting seems more “forced” than the friends we make in high school or college, sharing a common hobby with fellow musicians, writers, or bikers can serve as a great start. I’ve been thinking about this a lot more lately actually. While I am still sheltered by the school environment, I try to be more proactive with outside interactions. Being in the orchestra helps, and I can certainly practice my social skills with people with whom I share common interests. That’s certainly a good start.

    And yay for a picture! Now I know what you look like. xD

    • I do think there’s a certain benefit to locations that force social interaction upon us. While many workplaces are social in their nature, I think it’s a very false form of social interaction that’s prone to creating pretty much anything but friendships. I rant about that in Friday’s coming post though.

      You’ve really never seen a picture of me in nearly a year and a half of reading my blog?

  4. My husband really struggles with making friends too. I’m very good at making acquaintances but less so at making close friends. I have a lot of trouble putting myself out there, and tend to be happier just staying at home with hubs. I’m not really the reach out type.

    That being said, we have made a few friends lately through a mutual friend, and through actually getting involved at our church. It helped to be somewhere that included a lot of common interests.

    • I can certainly see how a place where you’re sharing mutual interests with people can help foster friendships. I do have interests that I share with others, however I do strongly prefer to just be home with my fiancee as well.

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