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  1. It’s really disheartening to see so much bad advice on the internet. Before I started blogging I did a hell of an amount of research to figure out what I should do, what I shouldn’t be doing etc. There are countless blogs out there telling you how to blog. I kept running into one blog telling me to do one thing and another blog telling me to do something completely opposite. Anyway, i’m rambling. The most difficult type of person that I have had to deal with would be the type of person who refuses to admit that they’re wrong, even when they are. (*cough* My ex-boss *cough*).

  2. Hmm, oftentimes the difficult individuals are those we deem incompatible. As simple as this sounds, this is the very reason why people can’t simply get along. Their views and beliefs shape their behavior, and there are times when clashing views prevent the parties from reaching any conclusion. :/

    Having said that, I have difficulty singling out difficult individuals — just neurotic ones or adamant ones or excessively passionate ones…See what I mean? Fortunately, much of their difficult attributes enable certain redeeming qualities that would not have existed otherwise. This one passionate person I mentioned, while he doesn’t know when to stop talking and how to go along with the joke without ruining it, is very knowledgable about certain topics that pique his interests. Sure, he has biases. But he’s always open to hear dissenting opinions. Let’s just say that you’ll always walk away from a conversation having learned something new.

    When it really comes down to it, the only thing I can do is limit my dose/exposure to these “difficult” individuals. If we are completely devoid of drama, we’ll end up creating them internally anyways. Might as well offset that urge with external stimuli while learning new things. 😛

    • Your last paragraph about using external stimuli to create drama rather than creating it yourself is a key point as to why I wrote this piece way back when. I’m the type of person who hates when other people create frustrations in my life. Yet, without those other people to create frustrations, I find myself making my own. That’s a much less fun thing to deal with.

  3. I don’t know if I would say surround yourself with difficult people, but certainly surround yourself with people you disagree with. I’ve found, especially through blogging, the people I’ve come to respect and follow the most are ones who share views much different than my own – at least in certain major areas of their lives. Because it does create a challenge – not just to make sure that I am super well informed and educated on what I believe/am talking about, but it also gives me perspectives that I might not otherwise hear.

    • I think that’s a good way to look at it. I think that many people see those who naturally disagree with them as difficult people, however I don’t think that’s necessarily the case. I have a lot of respect for those people who are willing to debate me in a respectful manner more so that those who blatantly disagree just for sake of disagreeing.

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