Four months ago, I wrote a post detailing some of the things my wife and I had learned in the process of planning for our wedding. We’re almost three months past the wedding now, and I realized that I haven’t written a follow up post to that items. There’s certainly a lot more we learned than just the lessons in that first post…most of which likely won’t be all that shocking to people who actually have gone through a wedding.
Rehearsal Quality Is Directly Related To People Quality
Our wedding rehearsal night was legitimately one of the easiest nights of my life. The pastor knew what he was doing, everyone knew how to follow directions, and the process was pretty straight forward regardless. Hell, our wedding was simple enough to follow that one of my people who was doing a reading managed to attend a wedding the night before (during our rehearsal), come right in the day of the wedding with no practice, and not miss a beat. I’ve been to two wedding rehearsals before and both were complete trainwrecks. Looking back, this was usually because someone was incapable of following directions or was trying to control things when they shouldn’t have. Rehearsals aren’t that hard. Don’t make them as such.
People Who Said They’ll Come To The Wedding Won’t
And of course its corollary…
People Who Said They Can’t Come To The Wedding Will Still Try To
This happened to us thanks to members of my extended family changing their minds at the last minute. As a result, we were left with an entire table we had ordered food for that went uneaten. Admittedly, I was pretty pissed off, particularly because said family members had made such a big deal about the fact that they would be at the wedding. They weren’t. And wouldn’t you know that I told a family member who suddenly could come that we didn’t have space for them just the night prior((To be fair to all involved, none of these shenanigans were particularly shocking.)). A friend of mine from college managed to soothe my frustration on the whole thing, explaining to me that it’s apparently something that happens far more than the crazy wedding stories everyone tells((Like people getting drunk and hooking up in bathrooms.)).
Your Wedding Day Won’t Go Fast
My wife will completely disagree with me on this fact, but the reality is that the “fast” movement of a wedding day is an illusion. Prior to the wedding, everything seems like it’s moving in slow motion time-wise. The majority of the wedding party got to the church around two and a half hours before the wedding. The lead up time to the wedding itself felt like an entire day. Then, once the wedding itself started, everything began moving at a normal pace again. I fully believe that’s where the illusion of the wedding and reception going by too fast comes from — not things actually feeling like they’re going by too quick.
People Won’t Gift Like You’d Expect
I was blown away by the generosity that many people showed towards us on our wedding day. There were people who I know don’t have much money to their name that gave us gifts/money that they otherwise couldn’t afford to do. It wasn’t like it was much money at all — but knowing the financial circumstances those people were in, it meant even more that they went out of their way for us. I fully expected more than a handful of people to not even give us anything at all (due to the aforementioned financial issues), however only one couple didn’t get us anything, which stunned us. Now we just have to figure out what the hell to do with all the stuff…